It’s my first class for over one year. I don’t really know why I started teaching dance again, because it was not in my plans. Think its something unspoken. A mission I’ve to complete. Fitness Bootcamp is fine and all but, there’s something else that’s calling out. Something else I’ve been tasked to share. So, here I am. I’m back. So, lets get right into it. My first class today—actually it was 12-weeks ago but; I’m just now getting to blog about it—a dance member tugs my arm after class today, stares me down and blurts “Bill, I had a tough time with the warm up but, when it came to the across the floor I just couldn’t do it”. She went on to explain she felt like everybody was looking at her “mess-up”.
My retort to all of you out there with the same thoughts is: other dancers haven’t the interest nor time to look at you in class. They’re busy struggling with their own inner dancing demons towards what will someday become a journey accomplished. It’s like life. One needn’t worry about what others think or you’ll end up being a very, very unhappy person. How the heck are you supposed to please everybody? You can’t. You miss the beautiful moments in YOUR life. So, don’t care two-hoots about what others think. That’s the ego talking anyway. If you’re so concerned about your appearance — or in this case, performance — you’re already lost. You haven’t got a handle on what its all about. The joy of dancing isn’t about what’s outside you. Its about what’s within. So, dance to your own rhythm and beat…nobody else’s.
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
Hear Say
The fundamental difference between a statement and a query, essentially is the question mark at the end of the sentence. Whenever I teach class, I have a bunch of women who comes up to me all the time to make statements that sums up to, "I cannot do this". I usually give them a blank stare and frown - my version of a reply. Reason for my attitude is because I personally feel that such a no-brainer statement does not warrant an intelligent respond.
Making a statement such as the above is a very dangerous subconscious denouncement. Uttering this statement leaves no room for improvement. It’s final, definitive and negative. Don’t shut yourself down. Try to see the other side of the equation, think positive and imagine the cup half full. Positive affirmation is important.
Instead, try believing and saying something such as, "I’m having difficulty with this, can you explain how I can do it better", or "this is really tough, what can I do to perform it better?"
Most times, it is a matter of tonality. Positive tonality, even to oneself, results in positive output and like my pro-bono publicist's mantra, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it".
Making a statement such as the above is a very dangerous subconscious denouncement. Uttering this statement leaves no room for improvement. It’s final, definitive and negative. Don’t shut yourself down. Try to see the other side of the equation, think positive and imagine the cup half full. Positive affirmation is important.
Instead, try believing and saying something such as, "I’m having difficulty with this, can you explain how I can do it better", or "this is really tough, what can I do to perform it better?"
Most times, it is a matter of tonality. Positive tonality, even to oneself, results in positive output and like my pro-bono publicist's mantra, "it's not what you say, it's how you say it".
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